
Recently, I graduated high school. Yeah, that's a big feat in everyone's life, at least those who graduate. Everything was according to plan, until very close to the end. I still had my same two best friends since middle school, I knew all my classmates, I was passing all my classes. It was everything I'd dreamed it to be, and then it happened.
Graduation came around, and I found that it suddenly wasn't anything like I'd planned. I had no friends to call my own. I wasn't angry at them for how they treated me. I know it must have felt like a betrayal. I know how they felt, and they couldn't see how their actions were selfish.
It's hard letting go when you know everything about them. When you've known each other for so long, been so in love with them, know their every flaw. What do you do with all that love for them, once it's over? How do you come to terms with having hurt them? How they hurt you?
I made my playlist for them, but this one wasn't that of a middle aged white woman living in a trailer whose husband just cheated on her. I don't wish any harm towards them. I'm hurt, but they didn't betray me. Instead, this playlist is about the melancholy ache of losing old friends, and having them to begin with.
"Champagne Problems" - Taylor Swift"How evergreen our group of friends
Don't think we'll say that word again"
"Long Way Home" - Jukebox the Ghost
"Seems like many years ago
It's strange how you can never know who's
Going to stay with you and who will leave
Do you remember me?"
"I Will Never Forget" - Kimya Dawson
"She said, 'Do you remember singing Ice Ice Baby with me
Laying down on the reef bathroom floor?'
How could I ever forget?
I could never forget
I will never forget"
"Front Porch" - Joy Williams
"Whatever you've done it doesn't matter
'Cause darling we're all a little splintered and battered"
"Endless Running Out of Time" - The Secret Sisters
"Until the ties are broken
This purpose will be mine
To hold you close, and try to slow
The endless running out of time"
"Please Leave a Light on When You Go" - Brittain Ashford, Dave Malloy
"How can you see the ending
When you're lost at the beginning?"
"Calling Old Friends" - Defiance, Ohio
"Calling old friends to make sure they're real
Talking, talking just to feel
That sense of home you lost when you left last year"
"Song For An Old Friend" - The Mountain Goats
"You had oranges and lemons in a canvas bag beside you
And seven different kinds of light welling up inside of you
You smeared citrus pulp all over me, it felt okay
Good old East Rutherford three thousand miles away"
"Sometimes I Still Feel the Bruise" - The Mountain Goats
"Sometimes I still feel the bruise
Now and then I stumble on
What I've misplaced but never lost
An ache I first felt long ago
Though you've appeared and disappeared
Throughout these past few years
I'd be surprised if you now showed"
"Waiting For Your Call" - Dawes
"When you wanna know just how much I can forgive
I'll be waiting for your call"
"Heavy Storm" - First Aid Kit
"I wish that I could have known by then
What we all know now
That we're never getting back to those times"
"Famous Blue Raincoat" - Leonard Cohen
"What can I possibly say?
I guess that I miss you, I guess I forgive you
I'm glad you stood in my way"
"The Way It Was" - The Killers
"Maybe a thief stole your heart
Or maybe we just drifted apart"
"The Last Place I Saw You Alive" - The Mountain Goats
"It's only now and then you come to mind / There's a trillion things you left behind / It's just the way the math works out / Nothing really to get worked up about"
"I Woke Up With This Song In My Head This Morning" - Bright Eyes
"I woke up with this song in my head this morning
I was dreaming about your record collection
And all of our scratched affection"
"Allies or Enemies" - The Crane Wives
"Remember when I could tell you not to smile when you were mad?
And you would always crack
And we'd both be laughing in the end
Now you're not so quick to forget"
"Stranger to Stranger" - Paul Simon
"Day after day
Year after year
Certain melodies tear your heart apart
Reconstruction is a lonesome art"
"Old Friends" - Simon and Garfunkel
"Can you imagine us years from today
Sharing a park bench quietly?
How terribly strange to be seventy
Old friends, memory brushes the same years
Silently sharing the same fears"
"Bridge Over Troubled Water" - Simon and Garfunkel "Oh, when friends just can't be found
Like a bridge over troubled water
I will lay me down"